The Deep Bond We Share: Grieving Our Pets

For many of us, our pets are more than just animals—they are family

They greet us at the door, curl up beside us at the end of a long day, and offer a kind of love that asks for nothing in return. They become woven into the fabric of our lives, present in our happiest moments and our hardest days. And when they leave us, the grief is profound, sometimes catching us off guard with its depth.

Recent research has confirmed what so many of us already feel in our hearts—Kiwis mourn the loss of their pets with the same intensity as they do for family members. In fact, a recent study conducted by the Grief Centre and the Funeral Directors Association of New Zealand found that Kiwis rate the emotional impact of losing a pet at 7.9 out of 10, slightly higher than the 7.8 rating given to the loss of a family member. Additionally, one in four New Zealanders has experienced the death of a pet in the last two years, highlighting just how common and deeply felt this grief is.

At H. Morris, we understand this bond intimately

At the beginning of March, we celebrated the birthday of our beloved comfort liaison, Dave. He’s more than just a pet—he’s part of our team, offering warmth and companionship to those who need it most. Watching him interact with people, seeing the way he brings smiles and softens heavy hearts, is a reminder of how deeply animals touch our lives.

For those who have loved and lost a pet, the grief can feel isolating

After all, society often treats pet loss differently from the loss of a family member or friend, and some may struggle to express just how much it hurts. But grief doesn’t come with rules, and love isn’t measured by species. The ache of missing the sound of paws on the floor, the familiar weight of a head resting on a knee, or the quiet presence of a friend who always seemed to know exactly how you were feeling—these are losses that deserve to be honoured.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve

Some people find comfort in creating a small memorial, keeping a favourite toy or collar, or planting something special in their pet’s memory. Others may choose to hold a farewell ceremony, light a candle, or simply take time to reflect on the joy their pet brought into their life. What matters most is allowing space for grief, acknowledging the love shared, and finding ways to cherish their memory.

At H. Morris, we believe that every life—no matter how small, how furry, or how fleeting—deserves to be honoured. The love our pets give us is real, their presence is lasting, and the grief of losing them is just as valid as any other loss.

If you are mourning the loss of a cherished pet, know that your feelings are real, your grief is understood, and you are not alone. The love they gave you remains woven into the memories and moments you shared. And in that love, they will always be with you.